In a conversation on Facebook this evening, the subject of how supportive, caring, loving and helpful our spouses or significant others are to us. I made the comment that they are the unsung hero’s of migraine disease. It just hit me smack between the eye’s how true that statement was and I knew that I must write a post about it tonight! It was just too important to wait until tomorrow.
I often speak of my husbands unwavering support, in the 17 years of daily chronic migraine and fibromyalgia. My baseline pain level is a two everyday for migraine, that is a really great day! When I’m in a status or an intractable migraine, the fibromyalgia always flares up to join the party.
When I’m in one of these cycles, this is the time I have to retreat to my cave. Away from the over stimulation of lights, sounds and smells. I also tend to get moody and crabby during this time and it is not at all fair to take that out on my husband. My cave is a retreat, calm, cool, and safe.
I’ve said before that I really don’t like to talk about the negative side of migraine, but for post it is necessary. This year has been a struggle unlike any I’ve had before, making it a necessity to spend the bulk of my time in my cave. During this time, never once has my husband complained or made me feel guilty, about having to do so. He just pitched in and did what needed to be done, from cooking to doing the laundry. He is a terrific cook, king of the grill, and I really love watching him look for recipes on Pinterest, because he enjoys doing it so! He is my Rock and I appreciate him more than he will ever know, even though I tell him so all the time!
I know many other migraineurs who have special spouses or significant others, who are there for them. Maybe not in exactly the same way, because they have full-time jobs, were my husband is retired. But they are still there, they stuck, they didn’t ditch when the going got tough. They gathered strength and their bond got stronger! These are the unsung hero’s of migraine disease, if you have one of these hero’s make sure they know how much you appreciate what they do. Because they can be rare.
“A true hero isn’t measured by the size of his strength, but by the strength of his heart” Hercules
Live with hope,