“It’s so easy to laugh. It’s so easy to hate. It takes strength to be gentle and kind.” Stephen Morrissey
My motto for 2018 is, be kind! Sounds rather simple, you may be thinking, but if you look back over 2017, there were so many actions that took place, that were far from kind. A lot of folks, look to the leader of our country, for guidance during challenging times. Sadly that didn’t happen, folks become more uncertain and others saw it as a chance to, further bigotry. If there was ever a time to start, showing kindness, even small acts of kindness, it is now.
Especially among the migraine community, this is a time to lift one another up, not tear them down. Using the various migraine support groups, that host and leaders, have worked so hard, to make a safe, calm, supportive place, is unthinkable. And so very wrong.
These are stressful times, and while stress alone, doesn’t trigger a migraine, when added to other factors, causes a cumulative effect, that can trigger a migraine. Before you fire back at someone, use these THINK guidelines.
- T ~ is it true?
- H ~ is it helpful?
- I ~ is it inspiring?
- N ~ is it necessary?
- K ~ is it kind?
If you cannot answer yes to these questions, then it’s probably best not to say, what you had in mind. Because these kind of comments, have a way of biting you in bum, somewhere down the road. And you’re left with a mess to clean up and a boatload of stress!
My Mom always said, “you can catch more flies with honey than vinegar”! Why anyone would want to catch flies, is beyond me! But I got the moral behind the saying. Being kind, takes a personality with more honey, than vinegar. Bee’s are busy little creatures, going from flower to flower, spreading pollen, that eventually creates the amazing honey, I love to drink in my tea every morning.
Just like the bees, we can be busy spreading kindness, as we go about our day. Kindness isn’t necessarily difficult, a smile and thank you, to the gentleman who held the door for you, helping an elderly woman, put her groceries in her car, a quick complement to a woman, as you pass her, about her fabulous boots. Complements about adorable babies/toddlers, as well as, a person dog. Keeping track of which migraine friend, who hasn’t posted in a day or two. This usually means, the migraine beast has them in their cave.
I have several migraine friends and a few who are, as close as a sister. I didn’t need to use honey, to start or retain our friendship. We have much in common, namely we are on this migraine journey together. But I don’t take their friendship for granted, like any relationship you have to be present and work on it. “Bee” there for each other and always be kind. Showing kindness and bring joy and happiness, to another person, is an awesome feeling, it doesn’t have to cost you dime, but the reward goes on forever!
“Kind words can be short and easy to speak, but their echoes are truly endless.” Mother Teresa
Live with hope,